Swajan : Then how do we tackle the issue of apparent faults of others and subsequent development of uneasiness, unhappiness and perplexity in us?
Pujya Shree Mota : If you have the feelings for your swajan and you get upset at finding the faults with him, you should stay quiet and not say anything at that time. It is not an appropriate time when you are fuming within. You should self narrate everything that you want to say to your swajan when there is peaceful moment. You should do this with great humility, softness, tenderness and love in your heart. You should feel relieved after self narrating in this fashion.
Swajan : What do you mean when you say to do this self narration with humility and softness?
Pujya Shree Mota : When there is no quietness from within, it is our tendency to believe that we are always right in a given situation. We need to abandon this tendency of self righteousness with clear understanding. It is possible to do this only when there is peace within. Only when we reduce the ego in this fashion, it is possible to experience bhava of humility in your heart. Softness of the heart means developing awareness of not experiencing harsh feelings, jealousy and vindictiveness toward the other person. When this bhava develops faults of others even if enters us will not get established. With this bhava in your heart you should self narrate by accepting the faults as yours and not others in a positive way. Observe and empty out whatever springs up with the same bhava. This narration does not need to be in front of the swajan but needs to be done in privacy to yourself. With this practice the habit of seeing faults of others will get weaker and weaker. It is important to understand that it is our weakness to see faults of others repeatedly. By doing this we will understand this fact.
Think about this talk with a quiet mind and experiment on your own.
Pujya Shree Mota
Sukh no marg
Edition 7; pages 21 - 22.
My two cents -- Self narration ( આત્મ નિવેદન ) needs to be done with great humility and love (bhava of heart).
Pujya Shree Mota : If you have the feelings for your swajan and you get upset at finding the faults with him, you should stay quiet and not say anything at that time. It is not an appropriate time when you are fuming within. You should self narrate everything that you want to say to your swajan when there is peaceful moment. You should do this with great humility, softness, tenderness and love in your heart. You should feel relieved after self narrating in this fashion.
Swajan : What do you mean when you say to do this self narration with humility and softness?
Pujya Shree Mota : When there is no quietness from within, it is our tendency to believe that we are always right in a given situation. We need to abandon this tendency of self righteousness with clear understanding. It is possible to do this only when there is peace within. Only when we reduce the ego in this fashion, it is possible to experience bhava of humility in your heart. Softness of the heart means developing awareness of not experiencing harsh feelings, jealousy and vindictiveness toward the other person. When this bhava develops faults of others even if enters us will not get established. With this bhava in your heart you should self narrate by accepting the faults as yours and not others in a positive way. Observe and empty out whatever springs up with the same bhava. This narration does not need to be in front of the swajan but needs to be done in privacy to yourself. With this practice the habit of seeing faults of others will get weaker and weaker. It is important to understand that it is our weakness to see faults of others repeatedly. By doing this we will understand this fact.
Think about this talk with a quiet mind and experiment on your own.
Pujya Shree Mota
Sukh no marg
Edition 7; pages 21 - 22.
My two cents -- Self narration ( આત્મ નિવેદન ) needs to be done with great humility and love (bhava of heart).
