When someone is very upset and angry at the other person for certain kind of behavior, he may decide to keep calm and internalize the anger. He assumes the calm demeanor on the outside and does not express his real anger towards the other person. I do not consider this (not expressing the anger outside) as hypocrisy. I think this is a better way than expressing the anger. He may get perplexed and upset in his mind for doing so. He may get all kinds of thoughts in his mind. He may justify the reasons for being angry in his mind. I do not consider this method as hypocrisy if he does not get angry in spite of having enough reason to justify his anger in his own mind. Sadhak needs to identify, resolve and remove these conflicting thoughts from his mind over a period of time. In the end he must reach a state where there is no anger to start with and there is no need to work at it at a later time.
Pujya Shree Mota
Jivan Mandaan
Edition 3; page 207.
My two cents -- This was written in a letter to a devotee who thought that getting angry and not expressing it is a hypocrisy. Pujya Shree Mota explains this stage as a beginning in managing the anger. The aim here is to see that the anger does not appear in the first place.
Pujya Shree Mota
Jivan Mandaan
Edition 3; page 207.
My two cents -- This was written in a letter to a devotee who thought that getting angry and not expressing it is a hypocrisy. Pujya Shree Mota explains this stage as a beginning in managing the anger. The aim here is to see that the anger does not appear in the first place.
