Swajan: Mota, what kind of changes are experienced in our nature, while we pursue to sublimate our love?
Pujya Shree Mota; Open mindedness and generosity (માનસિક ઉદારતા) is the first step. It is just the beginning of the love when we bear with people of different nature, that come in our contact in different situations. Open mindedness and generosity means to bear misunderstanding, sarcasm, unjust behavior, oppositional attitude, being ignored, false accusations and biting words without any complaints. There is some inherent misery even in open mindedness and generosity. True love does not have, even that inherent misery. True love accepts physical and mental difficulties peacefully without giving any reaction. True love never toots its own horns.
Moreover, true love keeps quite regarding its own inclusiveness and self sacrifice. Love and ego can never coexist. The relationship between love and Moha (infatuation, fascination) is like light and darkness. Degree of infatuation corresponds to the lack of love. Moha is blind; love on the other hand has manyfold vision, being the characteristic of the formidable God. True love always keeps the welfare of the loved one in the forefront and it can become apparently tough if needed. It is just not the soft and tender feelings. It always considers one thing. How can it benefit the loved ones?
Pujya Shree Mota
Daampatya Bhavna (Ideal of matrimony)
Edition 1; Pages 5 - 6.
