You should not be boxed into any kind of understanding. However,this does not mean that bhava should not be expressed. Bhava is useful if it is expressed as a tool for your development and not for enjoyment.
There is no other bhava more alert and clever than sadbhava ( goodness, સદભાવ ). When sadbhava is developed from the heart with knowledge and devotion, it opens up the third eye of discretion ( વિવેક ). This sense of discretion is at the root of knowledge. This sadbhava with knowledge and a sense of discretion will automatically develop deep understanding and guide us regarding our relationships, behavior and the extent of involvement with family and friends. One does not have to think before developing and taking care of relationships when sadbhava has produced a worry-free and peaceful mind. There is a certain ease, happiness and peace about one's behavior.
Pujya Shree Mota
Jivan pravesh ( જીવન પ્રવેશ )
Edition 2, page 58.
