DO NOT DISCUSS, ESPECIALLY SPIRITUALITY

  Never discuss regarding anything, especially spirituality. In Sadhana argumentative mood and tendency towards discussions and disputations are very harmful. As soon as we learn to go  within, we can easily see that the real reason for discussion and disputation is the ego. There is a kind of subtle narrow-mindedness and lack of generosity toward other person. We do not possess the skill to know the other person and yet knowingly or unknowingly we tend to believe that we are better than the other person in intellect, understanding and that our understanding is more appropriate than others. Sometimes there is also hypocrisy knowingly or unknowingly. We fail to accept other person's opinion even if there is truth in the opinion because we get carried away in heated discussion. Sometimes even if we have deeper understanding of other person's opinion, we fail to accept and ignore the opinion because of excitement of the discussion. We stick to our opinion knowing that it is wrong and ignore the other person's opinion. This is a kind of hypocrisy. Intellect is used inappropriately in discussions and disputations. There is no gain in the development of our lives from such discussions, the reason being absence of heartfelt Bhava of inquisitiveness (જીજ્ઞાસાભાવ). Goodbye to such prattling discussions.

When the Satsang (association with good people) is done with the expression of heartfelt Bhava of inquisitiveness, there is flood of Bhavna leading to opening of the hearts of the participants. While in just discussions there is more of insistence on the opinions. Heart is never expressed in the discussions and disputations. While in Satsang that is done with the Bhavna of inquisitiveness and there is an expressions of the heart. Energy is wasted unnecessarily in such discussions and disputations, and behind all that is our ego most of the time.

Pujya Shree Mota

Jivan Yog, Part 1

Edition1; Page 131.

MIND YOUR OWN BUSINESS

 We must stay within ourselves. There is no need to be the judge of others. It is best if we can judge  ourselves appropriately. In worldly dealings, almost all the Jivas begin to give advice, instruct and teach others right away. We should keep peace if confronted with such incident and try to understand the deeper meaning of their sayings. Try to take a positive meaning of their talk. At the same time, we should never start giving instructions, explanations and advice. Do not do this even if it is asked for. 

That work (to give advice, instruct or explain) is not ours. It is best not to do that even if it is almost to the lips. It is not our work to be their loved one by saying such things. It is stupid to be their favorite by saying things that they like. We will fall in the ditch by saying such things. It is another matter to act favorable to others with knowledge and awareness. Shree Bhagwan is the loved one of everyone. We should be happily engaged in our own work. Consider being dead if you are guided by coxing and cajoling of someone else. So always be alert. 

Pujya Shree Mota

Jivan Yog, Part 1

Edition 1, Page 129.

REMEDIES TO CREATE HARMONY

 It is not proper for us to wish or insist that 'everything is not done according to our wishes and we should not do whatever we want and like'. We want to live to fulfill Shree Bhagwan's wishes. If that is the case, sadhak must accept the incidents (as a result of the past associations or Nimitta) where his ego, insistences, opinions, understandings, habits etc., are challenged, with heartfelt sincerity and love. This is the real meaning of 'all incidents are a form of the Guru'. We need to develop an inner eye to decide the rightful place of each incident in the development of our lives. If we are able to do this in the dealings of Sansar, we will not have the urge or the desire to see misery, right or wrong actions on the part of other Jiva's actions. The reason being, to keep any other expectations suggest our own ignorance. It is not possible to have the same standard of understanding, measure of life, and Bhavna like us in other Jivas. If our mind shows us the items that obstructs our progress in life or create loss of peace in mind, we must refuse to take part in such actions. We should separate ourselves from mind and tell the mind that it is not your work to think in this manner. So, if we continue to remind the mind at the time of such incidents with such  Jivas, we will not have an occasion to become weary, unhappy, miserable and feeling that injustice is being done to us. We must continue to think, function and calculate from the viewpoint and spirit of the development our lives. We should reject any other way or method with insistence and heartfelt sincerity. 

Pujya Shree Mota

Jivan Yog, Part 1

Edition 1, Page 128.

METHOD TO CREATE HARMONY

 It is an illusion to believe that whatever is expressed by our nature is true. When we see with our own eyes, our interpretation depends upon the deeper understanding of our mind. It is possible to be wrong even when it is seen by the eyes. For this reason, to understand someone appropriately, if we make an effort to understand other person by understanding his nature and not ours, it is possible to create mutual harmony. If there is mutual heartfelt sincerity, there is no difficulty in understanding each other. 

Pujya Shree Mota

Jivan Yog, Part 1,

Edition 1, Page 127. 

'WE ARE ALWAYS RIGHT' IS A HUGE IMPASS (મડાગાંઠ)

We should take appropriate care to understand others as much as possible. It is important to take care regarding injustice to anyone. There is no necessity to blow up the matter when it is trivial, and there is no need to feel bad about it either. We will never truly understand the heart of the other person without getting rid of our habit of unnecessary involving the mind in contrariwise manner. Our understanding is the only true understanding is also one huge impasse. It is entirely possible that other person's understanding is true. For this reason, Bhava of Goodness should spring within us towards other person with different understanding. We will continue to stumble in the darkness until we have complete understanding of this matter.  

Pujya Shree Mota

Jivan Yog, Part 1

Edition 1; Page 127.