Woman devotee : Mota, you had warned us and yet I and my husband fought with each other when we visited our family. We could not control ourselves. I realize that I am a bad person.
Pujya Shree Mota : You are not a bad person. I just felt bad that both of you made a scene at somebody's home and could not keep peace. My hopes were dashed and we were the objects of ridicule. All of us lost our honor especially I. It is so bad that you lost the sense of discretion even when it was somebody else's home. Is it proper to enhance the honor of your loved one or demolish it? I know that you cannot clap with one hand and yet if we keep quiet and swallow the pride with smiling face, there can only be joy. You should keep quite when he is upset and vice a versa. If you take this vow or follow that edict then there will be happiness. Life gets miserable when we speak whatever comes in our head.
I want to see both of you as happy as birds dancing with joy.
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We should do every thing with all the pure intentions for our loved one and see that his life becomes comfortable and easy. We should have instant comprehension in our heart regarding his likes and dislikes of food. Our dream and goal to please him should always be in our mind. There should be a conviction and peacefulness in our heart, that if we follow our duty with goodness of the heart there will always be reciprocity from him. It is not important for us to see what the other person does or does not. I have this ideal in my heart that both of you live majestic life and that both of you dance to the divine tune of natraj (નટરાજ, epithet of Shiva) with one spirit, tune and rhythm. You follow my advice to change your nature. It is not easy to bear Mota's patter. His spirit of love is hard to digest. Can you bear all these?
Your husband should never have a reason to get upset. We must control our temper especially in somebody else's presence. You will have less and less intimacy due to this habit of quarreling. This is the result of youth and flood of inner natural tendencies in both of you. It may be too late and there may not be a possibility of harmony of hearts later in life. So beware and forewarned.
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You will experience peace, satisfaction and happiness by developing heartfelt goodness towards the family.
Pujya Shree Mota
Dampatya Bhavna
Edition 5; excerpts from pages 109 - 112.
Pujya Shree Mota : You are not a bad person. I just felt bad that both of you made a scene at somebody's home and could not keep peace. My hopes were dashed and we were the objects of ridicule. All of us lost our honor especially I. It is so bad that you lost the sense of discretion even when it was somebody else's home. Is it proper to enhance the honor of your loved one or demolish it? I know that you cannot clap with one hand and yet if we keep quiet and swallow the pride with smiling face, there can only be joy. You should keep quite when he is upset and vice a versa. If you take this vow or follow that edict then there will be happiness. Life gets miserable when we speak whatever comes in our head.
I want to see both of you as happy as birds dancing with joy.
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We should do every thing with all the pure intentions for our loved one and see that his life becomes comfortable and easy. We should have instant comprehension in our heart regarding his likes and dislikes of food. Our dream and goal to please him should always be in our mind. There should be a conviction and peacefulness in our heart, that if we follow our duty with goodness of the heart there will always be reciprocity from him. It is not important for us to see what the other person does or does not. I have this ideal in my heart that both of you live majestic life and that both of you dance to the divine tune of natraj (નટરાજ, epithet of Shiva) with one spirit, tune and rhythm. You follow my advice to change your nature. It is not easy to bear Mota's patter. His spirit of love is hard to digest. Can you bear all these?
Your husband should never have a reason to get upset. We must control our temper especially in somebody else's presence. You will have less and less intimacy due to this habit of quarreling. This is the result of youth and flood of inner natural tendencies in both of you. It may be too late and there may not be a possibility of harmony of hearts later in life. So beware and forewarned.
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You will experience peace, satisfaction and happiness by developing heartfelt goodness towards the family.
Pujya Shree Mota
Dampatya Bhavna
Edition 5; excerpts from pages 109 - 112.
